Healthy Body, Healthy Business: 

Laugh, Love & Listen

Mindset Shift You Can’t Afford to Ignore

Here’s the truth, boss: you can’t run a powerhouse business on an empty tank. You can have the slick branding, the strategy sessions, even the five-year plan — but if your health is in the gutter, your business will be too. Period.

Most entrepreneurs don’t even realize how much their physical and mental health is quietly sabotaging their growth. They think being tired all the time or running on stress is just “part of the grind.” Wrong. That grind is grinding you down, and it’s costing you money, clarity, and opportunities.

Burnout

When Your Health Tanks, So Does Your Business

Let’s call it like it is:

• Dragging through your day? That’s not just exhaustion, that’s lost productivity and creativity.

• Brain fog calling the shots? Strategic decisions don’t come from a cloudy mind.

• Stress running the show? Burnout isn’t a badge of honor — it’s a business killer.

You may not even connect the dots, but an unhealthy body and an unhealthy mindset are directly affecting your bottom line.

Strong Mind + Strong Body = Strong Business

Now let’s flip the script. When you commit to your health, your business will notice — fast.

• Energy becomes your superpower. Suddenly, systems, strategies, and events feel doable, not draining.

• Creativity flows. With a clear head, you’ll start spotting opportunities and thinking outside the box like never before.

• Confidence skyrockets. When you feel good in your own skin, it shows up in every pitch, partnership, and client interaction.

• Resilience builds. A healthy mindset makes bouncing back from challenges faster and easier.

Bottom line: A strong business starts with a strong you.

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Designing Your “Business Health Plan”

You wouldn’t ignore your business finances — so stop ignoring your business health. Here’s what a simple but powerful plan looks like:

1. Fuel your body wisely. Ditch the crash-and-burn cycle of sugar and caffeine. Eat for energy, not just convenience.

2. Move with purpose. Exercise isn’t optional — it’s the switch that turns on focus, stamina, and drive.

3. Protect your rest. Sleep is not lazy; it’s a strategy. Rested brains make sharper decisions.

4. Guard your mindset. Set boundaries. Take breaks. Fill your cup. A business built on burnout won’t last.

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The Final Word

Think of your health as the most valuable system in your business. You can automate emails, outsource tasks, and streamline services, but there is no replacing you.

When your body and mind are aligned and energized, you’ll show up as the visionary your business actually needs — not the exhausted version just trying to make it through the day.

✨ Your health isn’t a luxury. It’s Your edge. Protect it, invest in it, and watch Your business glow.

Published: September 1, 2025 | Author:  Darlene Clattenburg | 

Gender Equality Week in Canada: What Can We Do Better?

Gender Equality Week in Canada - 

What Can We Do Better?

Author: Darlene Clattenburg 

September 21, 2025

Every year, from September 21 to 27, Canada observes Gender Equality Week—a time to reflect on the progress we’ve made, the challenges that remain, and the steps we can take, individually and collectively, to close the gap.

Equality is not just a buzzword; it’s the foundation for stronger families, healthier communities, and thriving businesses. Yet, even in 2025, we’re still facing barriers. Women—especially women of color, Indigenous women, newcomers, LGBTQ+ individuals, and those with disabilities—are often underrepresented in leadership roles, underpaid in the workforce, and undervalued in industries where they are the backbone.

So, what can we do better?

1. Normalize Equal Pay and Transparency:

Equal work deserves equal pay. Sounds simple, right? But wage gaps persist. Businesses—big and small—can commit to wage transparency, regularly reviewing pay scales to ensure fairness. As consumers, we can support organizations that openly value pay equity.

2. Invest in Women Entrepreneurs:

Canada is full of ambitious women starting small businesses, from tech to beauty to service industries. These entrepreneurs often face greater challenges accessing funding or mentorship. Supporting their ventures—whether by shopping local, booking their services, or recommending them to others—goes beyond a transaction. It’s an investment in gender equality.

3. Encourage Work-Life Balance for All Genders:

Caregiving shouldn’t be a women-only responsibility. Normalizing parental leave for fathers and encouraging flexible work for all helps dismantle the old mindset that domestic duties are “women’s work.” Equality in the workplace starts at home.

4. Create Safer Work and Community Spaces:

Gender equality includes feeling safe—in workplaces, schools, and communities. That means taking harassment seriously, believing survivors, and building cultures of respect. True equality cannot exist without safety and dignity.

5. Mentor, Train, and Lift Each Other Up:

One of the most powerful ways to support equality is through mentorship. Sharing knowledge, opening doors, and pulling others up with you helps build a future where leadership looks more diverse. As the saying goes: When women support women, incredible things happen.

6. Speak Up and Stay Informed:

Equality doesn’t happen in silence. We need to question outdated systems, call out bias when we see it, and advocate for inclusive policies. Education and awareness fuel action.

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Why it matters:
Gender equality is not just a “women’s issue.” It’s a Canadian issue. A human issue. A stronger, fairer, and more prosperous future depends on it. During Gender Equality Week, let’s move beyond hashtags and lip service and ask ourselves:

👉 What can I do—today, in my home, in my workplace, in my community—to help level the playing field?

Because the truth is, change doesn’t happen in one week of the year. It happens every day we choose equality over silence

Why Your Spray Tan (and Your Skin) Secretly Wants Body Oil

 

Why Spray Tan 

Body Oil for faux Tans

(and Your Skin)

Secretly Wants Body Oil

Author: Darlene Clattenburg

September 20, 2025

Let’s be real: if you’ve got a spray tan, your skin care routine is officially on glow-protection duty. The biggest rule? Hydration. Hydrated skin = longer-lasting tans, smoother fades, and way less of that dreaded patchy look.

Most people reach for lotion (which is great, don’t stop), but let me spill the tea: body oils are the unsung heroes of tan care. They don’t just hydrate—they lock that glow down like Fort Knox.

Take Nuda Body Shimmer Oil—a luxe blend of Rosa Canina Fruit Oil, Rosa Rubiginosa Seed Oil, Rosa Eglanteria Seed Oil, Rosa Moschata Seed Oil. 

GLOWSHIMMER is our lightweight, hydrating instant body highlighter that enhances your tan and perfectly complements your sunless tanning routine. Enriched with Aloe Vera and Grape Seed Oil, our glittery, silky body illuminator deeply moisturizes while caressing skin with a shimmery, sun-kissed, and golden glow. Leaves skin softly scented in sweet vanilla. DHA-free and dries in seconds to prevent transfer to clothing.

But don’t worry—this isn’t a one-oil show. There are plenty of spray tan–friendly oils and lotions that won’t sabotage your glow:

Spray Tan–Friendly Body Oils

• Coconut Oil (organic, cold-pressed): Lightweight, natural, and leaves skin buttery soft.

• Jojoba Oil: Mimics skin’s natural sebum (translation: your skin drinks it up without clogging pores).

• Grapeseed Oil: Packed with antioxidants, plus it absorbs quickly (no “slip and slide” clothing disasters).

Spray Tan–Friendly Lotions

• Aveeno Daily Moisturizing Lotion: Fragrance-free, gentle, and hydrates without stripping.

• CeraVe Moisturizing Cream: Dermatologist-approved, simple, and spray tan safe.

• Coconut or Shea-based natural lotions (without mineral oil or heavy fragrance): Hydrate without breaking down your tan.

Remember: not all moisturizers are created equal. Avoid products with mineral oil, alcohol, or strong fragrances—they’re like little tan thieves that sneak in and steal your color.

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Why Body Oils Deserve a Permanent Spot in Your Routine

💧 Hydration That Actually Sticks Around
Lotions sometimes ghost you after a few hours. Body oils? They’re the ride-or-die. Massage it in, give it five minutes before dressing, and you’ll stay moisturized all day.

🧘 Stress-Proof Your Glow
When stress hits, your body plays favorites and sends nutrients to your brain and heart first. Your skin? Last in line. Add stress-induced free radicals and suddenly your glow looks tired. Vitamin-rich oils are like an extra shot of espresso—for your skin.

💸 More Bang for Your Buck
Oils may look pricier, but a little goes a long way. Warm a few drops in your hands and it spreads like silk. Think of it as “luxury on a budget”—fewer pumps, more coverage.

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At Liquid Sunshine Spray Tan, we don’t believe in half-baked skincare. We specialize in luxe tanning solutions and vegan-certified skincare that actually does what it promises. Your tan deserves to last, your skin deserves to glow, and you deserve products that deliver both.

Because let’s face it: when your spray tan is glowing and your skin feels like velvet, you’re unstoppable. ✨

Building Your Personal Spray Tan Brand: Why It Matters (and How It Affects Your Prices)

 

Building Your Personal Spray Tan Brand: Why It Matters (and How It Affects Your Prices)

Author | Darlene Clattenburg | Liquid Sunshine Spray Tan | August 9, 2025

Discover how building your personal spray tan brand can help you stand out, attract loyal clients, and charge premium prices. Tips for aspiring spray tan artists to grow their business and income.

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Why Your Personal Spray Tan Brand Is the Key to Success:

If you want to go from “side hustle” to full-time spray tan boss, you need more than flawless technique—you need a brand.

Your personal spray tan brand is what sets you apart, creates trust, and ultimately lets you raise your prices. Without it, you’ll always be competing on discounts instead of building a profitable, sustainable business.

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What Is a Personal Spray Tan Brand?

Your brand isn’t just a cute logo or Instagram feed (though those help). It’s the feeling and reputation you create around your business. It sets you apart from other like businesses.

A strong personal brand includes:

• The way you show up online and in person

• The story behind why you spray tan

• The client experience from booking to bronzing

• Your professionalism, consistency, and vibe

Bottom line: your brand is your business personality. And it’s what clients are really paying for.

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How Branding Impacts Spray Tan Prices:

Here’s the truth bomb: people don’t just pay for a spray tan, they pay for how your brand makes them feel.

✨ A budget brand attracts bargain hunters.
✨ A professional brand attracts loyal clients.
✨ A luxury brand attracts brides and special events (the clients who pay premium prices without blinking).

Same skill. Different brand. Totally different income.

Spray tan pricing by brand level:

• Beginner brand: $30–$40 per tan

• Growing brand: $50–$65 per tan

• Established brand: $70–$100+ per tan

Your spray tanning technique doesn’t change—but your brand perception does.

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5 Steps to Build Your Spray Tan Brand (and Charge More):

1. Define your vibe. Are you luxury and glam? Or fun and approachable? Choose and stick with it across everything you do.

2. Show up online. Keep your Instagram, website, and Google listing clean, professional, and consistent.

3. Focus on client experience. From first inquiry to aftercare, make every touchpoint feel intentional and elevated.

4. Put your face in your brand. Share your story and your “why.” People connect with people, not just tans.

5. Raise your prices with confidence. When your brand backs it up, clients happily pay more.

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The Glow-Up Truth:

Boss lady real talk: your personal brand is the difference between charging drugstore prices and designer prices.

Build your brand intentionally and you’ll attract better clients, set stronger prices, and grow a spray tan business that gives you financial freedom and a lifestyle you love.

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✨ Remember: you’re not just selling spray tans—you’re selling confidence, trust, and a luxury experience. The stronger your brand, the higher your prices can climb.

Spray Tan Safety Tips: A Professional’s Guide for Client & Spray Tan Artist

 

Spray Tan Safety Tips: A Professional’s Guide for Mobile Artists

Safety Checklist

Author | Darlene Clattenburg | Liquid Sunshine Spray Tan Society | August 2, 2024

Spray tanning has skyrocketed in popularity as the safe way to achieve that perfect glow. But whether you’re in a studio or bringing the tan directly to your client’s home, safety should always come first. Mobile spray tan artists face unique challenges, but with the right precautions, you can deliver flawless results while keeping everyone healthy. Let’s dive into the essentials of spray tan safety for professionals on the move.

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Understanding the Basics of Spray Tan Safety

Whether you’re a seasoned spray tan pro or just starting your mobile service, these core tips keep your clients happy and their skin protected:

1. Skin Preparation

Before any tanning session, advise clients to exfoliate thoroughly. Removing dead skin cells creates a smooth canvas, ensuring an even, streak-free tan.

2. Protective Measures

Both you and your client should wear goggles and masks to prevent inhalation or contact with the tanning solution. Safety is glamorous too!

3. Ventilation

For mobile spray tanning, proper airflow is critical. Even in small home spaces, portable fans or open windows can help disperse the tanning mist, keeping the air clean and breathable.

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Choosing the Right Products for Safe Tanning

Quality products are the backbone of safe, professional spray tanning. Keep these in mind:

• Ingredient Check: Opt for tanning solutions free from harsh chemicals and allergens. Natural, skin-friendly ingredients reduce the risk of irritation.

• Patch Testing: Always perform a patch test on a small area of skin to ensure your client won’t have an adverse reaction.

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Mobile Spray Tan Safety Tips

Mobile spray tan artists face extra considerations since you’re setting up in different environments. Here’s how to stay safe on the go:

1. Sanitize Equipment and Space: Carry disinfectants and wipes to clean spray guns, hoses, and any surfaces your client may touch.

2. Secure Your Work Area: Protect floors, furniture, and fabrics with portable tarps or disposable sheets to prevent accidental stains.

3. Control the Mist: Use adjustable spray booths or shields when possible to keep the solution contained and prevent overspray in confined spaces.

4. Client Comfort: Make sure there’s enough ventilation and room to move, especially in smaller homes or apartments.

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Post-Treatment Care: Keeping the Glow Safe

The session doesn’t end when the spray gun shuts off. Post-care is crucial for skin health and tan longevity:

• Hydration: Encourage clients to moisturize daily. Well-hydrated skin keeps the tan smooth and long-lasting.

• Avoid Irritants: Tell clients to skip hot showers, saunas, and vigorous exercise immediately after the tan.

• Sun Protection: Remind clients that spray tans do not protect against UV rays. SPF is still a must.

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Spray Tan Safety Tips: A Professional’s Guide for Client & Spray Tan Artist

Author | Darlene Clattenburg | August 2, 2025

Why Safety Equals Stunning Results:

Safety isn’t just a checklist—it’s the foundation of your professionalism. By following strict safety protocols, selecting high-quality products, and emphasizing proper aftercare, mobile spray tan artists can deliver safe, beautiful, and repeatable results every time.

Remember: safety first, glow second!

By embracing these spray tanning safety measures—especially in a mobile setting—you not only protect your clients’ skin but also elevate your reputation as a skilled, responsible, and sought-after spray tan artist.

Now Let's Talk About You!- The Mobile Spray Tan Artist:

• Tell another person your clients address, time of appointment and expected finish time. You will then contact that person with the appropriate "Code Word" that you are safe.
• If you do not use the "Code Word" - Your person moves into "Plan Mode".
• Place your car keys in a spot that will be easy to grab - don't worry about equipment - it is replaceable - You are not!   [I still do this]
• Preferably, keep your phone on you. Great to take a before & after picture. Turn on your phones "Safety App". Press record until you feel safe.
• Park your car in a way that it is easy and fast to leave. Hook up a 360 camera [if possible]
• Have a person travel with you to your appointment.
• I am including a MOBILE SPRAY TAN SAFETY CHECKLIST.

Business Seasons: Why Slow Times Don’t Mean Failure 

Why Slow Times Don’t Mean Failure | Liquid Sunshine Spray Tan

Author: Darlene Clattenburg | Liquid Sunshine Tan | August 23, 2025

Every business has highs and lows. Learn how client behavior impacts sales, why slow seasons are normal, and how to stay motivated until the boom returns.

The Rollercoaster Nobody Warns You About 🎢

If you’ve been in business for more than five minutes, you already know the truth: some years are booming, and other years are quieter than a library on a Monday morning. And before you panic—no, it doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong.

Most of the time? It’s Consumer Behavior. 👪

Think back to the COVID years. Nobody was traveling. Nobody was hitting the beach. Sunglass sales dropped like a bad habit. But the moment borders opened? Sunglasses flew off shelves faster than cinnamon buns at a Sunday bake sale.

That’s the power of client behavior. And it’s the same for beauty, spray tanning, and service industries in general.

Reflect on your business strategies: Are you following your business policies & procedures?

Are you following the important C's in business. Consistency  Clarity & Consumers

Why Slow Seasons Happen: 

Slow sales are not the end of the world. They’re usually the result of things like:

• Shifts in client priorities (think weddings, vacations, holidays).

• Global or local events (COVID, recessions, travel restrictions).

• Seasonal behavior (hello, summer spray tan rush vs. winter slowdowns).

Business isn’t broken—it’s just breathing.

What to Do During a Slow Season: 💬

Here’s where most entrepreneurs mess up: they treat the slow season like a death sentence. Instead, you need to use it as your growth zone.

✔️ Market like crazy. Stay visible so when clients are ready, they remember you.
✔️ Sharpen your skills. Take a class, upgrade your technique, or learn new business tools.
✔️ Build client relationships. Engage on social, check in, offer value—because loyalty brings them back.
✔️ Prep for the boom. Use downtime to streamline your booking system, freshen up your website, or create new offers.

Remember, the people who win in business are the ones who don’t quit when it’s quiet.

The Encouragement You Need Right Now:

If you’re in a slow season, hear me loud and clear: this is temporary. You’re not failing. You’re building. When the season shifts—and it will—you’ll be ready to catch that wave.

Business has seasons. The key is to stay standing when the boom hits.

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Final Glow:

Your next busy season could be right around the corner. Don’t throw in the towel five minutes before your breakthrough.

Keep showing up, keep glowing, and always—
#followyourglow ✨

Darlene

How Stress, Anxiety & Mental Health Affect Spray Tan Results: Pro Skin Insights for Spray Tan Artists

 

Author| Darlene Clattenburg | July 26, 2025  | Sunless Sessions Blog

Overview:

Stress, anxiety, and mental health fluctuations trigger physiological changes in the body that directly impact the skin — and consequently, spray tan results. Understanding these effects helps professional spray tan artists anticipate challenges and apply strategies to ensure even, long-lasting tans.

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1. Hormonal Effects on Skin and Spray Tan Quality:

• Cortisol Release: Stress increases cortisol, altering sebum production and skin hydration.

  • Impact on spray tan: Excess oil or dry skin can prevent DHA from developing evenly, leading to streaks or uneven color.
    

• Adrenaline Release: Causes temporary vasoconstriction and increased sweating.

  • Impact on spray tan: Reduced blood flow can make skin appear dull, affecting tan absorption, while sweating can dilute or wash away DHA in moisture-prone areas.

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2. Skin pH Imbalance:

• Stress can shift skin pH, making it more acidic or alkaline.

• Impact on spray tan: DHA develops best on balanced skin; pH fluctuations may cause uneven color, orange tones, or patchiness.

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3. Circulation and Skin Health:

• Stress-related vasoconstriction limits nutrient and oxygen delivery to the skin.

• Impact on spray tan: Skin may appear dull or blotchy, potentially affecting tan uniformity.

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4. Increased Sweat and Oil Production:

• Nervous sweating commonly occurs in underarms, palms, scalp, and back of knees.

• Impact on spray tan: Excess moisture can block DHA adhesion, causing lighter spots or uneven coverage.

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5. Skin Barrier and Sensitivity:

• Chronic stress can weaken the skin barrier, increasing redness, irritation, or sensitivity.

• Impact on spray tan: Tan may adhere unevenly to inflamed areas, and flakiness can shorten the tan’s lifespan.

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Pro Strategies for Stress-Related Skin Challenges:

1. Client Prep: Encourage exfoliation and hydration pre-tan to normalize pH and remove skin barriers.

2. Barrier Protection: Apply thin protective layers to high-sweat zones (underarms, palms, hairline).

3. Hydration Support: Recommend clients drink water before and after their spray tan to maintain skin elasticity.

4. Calming Environment: Use soothing scents, music, or deep-breathing techniques to reduce client stress, which supports skin health.

5. Customized Aftercare: Advise gentle moisturizing and avoiding friction on sensitive areas to preserve tan longevity.

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Key Takeaway:

Stress, anxiety, and mental health fluctuations do not prevent a spray tan from developing but can introduce variables that impact absorption, color consistency, and longevity. By understanding these effects and implementing professional strategies, spray tan artists can consistently deliver flawless, long-lasting results.

Achieve a Flawless, Natural Glow Spray Tan—Without the Harmful UV Rays

 

The Ultimate Guide to Prepare for a Flawless Spray Tan 

Author | Darlene Clattenburg |July 19, 2025 | Sunless Sessions Blog

To achieve the best results from a spray tan, thorough preparation and diligent maintenance are essential. These steps are critical in ensuring an even application and maximizing the longevity of your tan. Let's dive into why these measures are so vital and explore how you can extend the lifespan of your spray tan.

Preparation Tips for a Perfect Spray Tan:

NO DOVE PRODUCTS!!! IF YOU ARE SUN BURNT - RESCHEDULE YOUR APPOINTMENT!!!

Before your spray tan appointment, properly preparing your skin is important. Start by exfoliating at least 24 hours before your session. Use a gentle scrub to remove dead skin cells, creating a smooth surface for the spray tan solution to adhere evenly. Avoid oil-based exfoliants as they can leave a residue that hinders proper absorption.

Use sunless spray tan products, you can find them at most spray tan businesses, major drug stores or department stores, or from the company itself. Some companies offer sample sizes, which are great for travelling and the best way to prepare for a spray tan.

 Your Custom Glow, Delivered

                                                                 

Beauty services such as manicures/pedicures, or waxing are done before your spray tan appointment. Refrain from tight-fitting clothing, tight footwear, hot tubs, hot baths or hand washing until 48 hours after your spray tan. This is when the tan has finished processing.     

On the day of your appointment, you must refrain from applying lotions, deodorant, or makeup as these can create barriers on your skin, leading to uneven colour. Ask your technician for cleansing wipes, undergarments, hair ties, or other necessary items. It is imperative to inform your technician about dry skin patches or conditions to ensure an even tan. Furthermore, remember to wear loose, dark clothing to your session to avoid smudging the tan while it develops.

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Why Spray Tan Maintenance is Key:

Once your spray tan is applied, how you care for it determines its longevity and evenness. If you use a regular spray tan solution, wait at least 8-12 hours before your first rinse (n0 soap). For rapid spray tan solutions, follow the recommended rinsing time. 

When you do rinse, use lukewarm water and avoid scrubbing your skin. Pat your skin dry gently to avoid lifting the colour. Start moisturizing now, additionally, it is advised to drink water or hydration drinks. Sorry, wine is not for hydration, wine is for fun.

To maintain your tan longer, keep your skin moisturized.  Hydrated skin holds colour better, so use a moisturizer daily after your first rinse. Ideally, a moisturizer that’s free from harsh ingredients like alcohol or artificial fragrances.

                                 

Your Custom Glow Delivered

Products that Maintain your Spray Tan Colour:

Face Tan Water: This lightweight, clear tanning water is packed with vitamins and hydrating ingredients that will enhance your spray tan or rejuvenate your complexion. It's also perfect to use on your hands when they start to fade.

Tan Extenders: This low-DHA, lotion is designed to lengthen the colour of your spray tan. Made to replenish your glow with colour, hydration, and nutrients that you lose as the tan fades. They are the best lotions to use following your sessions or whenever you need a boost of colour. Apply with a mitt for a streak-free application and to protect your palms from unwanted colour.

Self-tan Mousse: Easy to apply, fast drying and streak-free mousse that has a higher DHA than a tan extender. A great product to use when your tan is fading to extend the glow while hydrating the skin. Apply with a mitt for a streak-free application and to protect your palms from unwanted colour.

#followyourglow

Liquid Sunshine Mobile Spray Tan 

Caring for Aging Parents: The Harsh Truth

Caring for Aging Parents: The Harsh Reality

When Taking Care of Aging Parents Turns

into a Battle with Your Siblings

Author | Darlene Clattenburg | July 5, 2025.Caring for aging parents is one of the most emotional, exhausting, and rewarding acts of love. It’s a

chapter of life that forces you to step up, grow up, and sometimes even give up parts of your own

life to ensure the people who raised you are cared for with dignity. But what happens when your

siblings—the people who should be walking alongside you—are the ones holding you back?

The Weight of Responsibility:

When Mom or Dad’s health starts to decline, no handbook tells you who should do what. Some siblings

step up without hesitation, while others suddenly have excuses, disappear, or make things harder by

questioning every decision you make. If you’re the one carrying the load, you know this

truth: caregiving can make family dynamics raw and ugly.

There’s often that one sibling (or two) who turns into the “backseat driver” of caregiving—quick to

criticize, but never quick to help. And while you’re juggling doctor appointments, finances,

and sleepless nights, they’re busy pointing out what you “should” or “shouldn’t” be doing.

Sound familiar?

Why Do Siblings Hold You Back?

It’s rarely about you. More often, it’s about:

• Denial: They can’t face that Mom or Dad is declining, so they avoid responsibility.
  
  

• Guilt: They feel bad for not stepping up, so they lash out at the one who is.
  
  

• Control: Sometimes, they just want to have the final say without doing the actual work.
  
  

• Money: Let’s be real—finances can rip families apart faster than anything else.

Setting Boundaries Without Losing Your Mind:

You can’t change your siblings, but you can control how you respond. Start by being crystal clear:

• Document everything – doctor notes, financial records, care plans.

• It’s harder for siblings to argue with facts.

• Say no – No, you’re not available to solve every minor crisis. No, you won’t tolerate criticism.
  
  

• Share tasks or costs – If they won’t show up physically, they can contribute financially.
  
  

It’s okay to say: “If you’re not going to help, I need you to stop making this harder.”

When to Let Go:

Sometimes, no matter how much you wish your siblings would step up, they won’t. And as hard as it is,

you need to stop waiting for them. The reality is this: You can’t save your parents and your siblings’

relationships at the same time.

Focus on your parents and your well-being. You’re doing the work out of love, and when this chapter

of life closes, you’ll know you did everything you could. Your siblings will have to live with the

consequences of their choices.

Your Heart Deserves Care Too:

Caring for your parents can be draining, but don’t forget to take care of yourself. Find support—

whether that’s friends, therapy, or a caregiver support group. Vent. Cry. Laugh. Take breaks. You’re not

superhuman, even if it feels like you’re carrying the weight of the world.

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Closing Thought:

If your siblings are holding you back, remember this: You’re the one doing the right thing.One day, when you look back, you’ll be proud that you showed up for your parents,when it mattered most.

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Helpful Resources When Your Parent Isn’t Coping Well

When you notice signs that your aging parent isn’t managing well, don’t ignore it. Sometimes what

looks like “slowing down” could be a medical issue. Here are some key steps and resources to help

you take action with clarity and care:

🩺 Start with Their Doctor

Subtle changes in memory, behaviour, or daily routines might be related to medication side effects,

underlying health conditions, or even infections. Always start with a medical checkup to rule out or

address treatable issues.

💊 Simplify Medication Management

Ask the pharmacy to package medications in blister packs—these are much easier than juggling multiple pill bottles. You can also set alarms or use medication reminder apps to help your parents stay on track.

🚨 In Emergencies, Act Fast

If something feels off—dizziness, confusion, severe pain, or sudden changes—don’t hesitate.

Call 911 or take them to the emergency room. The healthcare team can provide immediate care

and a full assessment.

🏠 Safety at Home is Non-Negotiable

If your parent lives with you, install door alarms or doorbell cameras so you're alerted if they leave the house unexpectedly—especially important with memory loss or

confusion. Indoor cameras in common areas can also help monitor their safety

(and your peace of mind).

💵 Tap Into Government Support

Look into local and provincial programs that offer financial help for caregivers. Ontario, for example, has tax credits and caregiver allowances depending on the situation. Don't

leave money on the table—these programs are often underutilized.

👩‍⚕️ Hire Help When You Can

Bringing in support doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re smart. Consider respite care, PSWs, for hygiene help. Even a few hours a week can give both you and your parent a break.

🧠 Talk to Someone Who's Been There

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is speak to someone who’s walked this path. You don’t have to

do this alone—and shouldn’t.

Darlene Clattenburg